Learning how to say no
Think in simple terms why you don't want to say yes - in saying no - don't criticize the receptor of your "NO."
Offer an alternative - if that might change things
Guilt should not be a consideration in not saying no
Release yourself from any unwanted obligation - the quicker the better.
"No" is a reply to a request - Just say NO! without personality or justification - and be honest... no excuses - "sorry" is an excuse!
always please yourself first. Will you be criticized..., lose a friend?
criticized yes (who cares) ... lose a friend no! Lose someone other than a friend - who cares?